A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Homosexuality

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A son's distancing himself from his mother a necessary step in his development.
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“Mothers make boys,” I said; “fathers make men.”

[…] In infancy, both boys and girls are emotionally attached to the mother. In psychodynamic language, mother is the first love object. She meets all her child’s primary needs.7 Girls can continue to develop in their feminine identification through the relationship with their mothers. On the other hand, a boy has an additional developmental task – to disidentify from his mother and identify with his father.

While learning language (“he and she,” “his and hers”), the child discovers that the world is divided into natural opposites of boys and girls, men and women. At this point, a little boy will not only begin to observe the difference, but also he must now decide where he himself fits in this gender-divided world. The girl has the easier task, […]; her primary attachment is already to the mother, and thus she does not need to go through the additional developmental task of disidentifying from the person closest to her in the world – Mom – to identify with the father. But the boy is different: he must separate from the mother and grow in his differentness from his primary love object if he is ever to be a heterosexual man.

This may explain why there are fewer female homosexuals than there are male homosexuals. Some studies report a 2 to 1 ratio. Others say 5 to 1 or even 11 to 1. We do not really know for sure, except that it is clear that there are more male homosexuals than there are lesbians.

This is consonant with St. Thomas Aquinas, De malo q. 15 a. 1 co. (Regan's transl.); fathers are responsible for educating their children their entire lives:

educatio ad matres pertinens est circa infantilem ætatem; postea autem ad patrem pertinet educare filium, et instruere eum, et thesaurizare ei in totam vitam.

the rearing of children for which mothers are responsible concerns the children’s infancy, and it is subsequently the responsibility of fathers to educate and instruct and enrich the children throughout their lives.

The answer to this question deeply concerns parents. They want to know how they can best raise their children. Many would have us believe that nothing can be done to foster the development of healthy gender identity and heterosexual orientation in children. But the clinical experience of Dr. Nicolosi and others, along with a careful look at the professional literature, indicates otherwise. In this groundbreaking book, Joseph Nicolosi uncovers the most significant factors that contribute to children’s healthy sense of themselves as male or female. Listening to moving recollections from ex-gay men and women who describe what was missing in their own childhoods, Dr. Nicolosi provides clear insight for identifying potential developmental roadblocks and gives practical advice to parents for helping their children securely identify with their gender. Replete with personal stories from parents, children and ex-gay strugglers, A Parent’s Guide offers compassion and hope for all those parents who seek to lay a foundation for a healthy heterosexual identity in their children.